I decided to send out a survey to my friends and readers asking them why they love Facebook and what they really can’t stand about it. After a few answers, I removed the “Why do you love Facebook?” question because every answer was the same, “keep up with friends and family”. I had people answer the question about what annoys them on Facebook and here are the results of that little survey:
How to Have a Christian Spirit on Facebook
Oh Facebook…why do we love it??
I have been pondering this question for several years. I loved it in college, took about a five year break because of the hatefulness I saw on it daily, and recently joined again to give it another shot. Why did I join? All of my friends were having babies and I wanted to see them…and I wanted to share my blog with my friends if I’m being totally honest.
I immediately remembered all of the good Facebook has to offer and, unfortunately, all of the bad too.
These results are probably not shocking to you. I just wanted to see if my friends agree with me, and for the most part, they do. You all know “that” person on Facebook that drives you nuts every single day. Every time you see their little picture, your heart starts to race and you are annoyed before you even read what they said. You read it and big surprise, you’re annoyed now 🙂
I wonder if this is healthy for us? To get on this site every day and just become bothered by others. I know this isn’t something Christians should be participating in. So is there a Christian way to participate in Facebook? I think so!
I am writing this from a perspective of what we “should” be like. I am not saying that I have never annoyed someone on Facebook because I am very sure I have…I asked people to take a survey and I found out some people don’t like that 🙂
Tips for having a Christian spirit on Facebook or any social media:
Think before you post! This is the MOST important tip I can offer. Anytime you type a status, comment on a picture, or “like” something, consider your audience. Think about who will read it and what people will think. If it could be perceived as an attack or negativity, keep it to yourself.
Is it something important enough to broadcast to the world? Facebook and other social media outlets are a great way to reach the masses but do the masses need to know every second of your day? Do they care? I can tell you from the survey that they don’t. If you are posting multiple times a day or constantly updating your status, take a step back and evaluate if these are all thoughts that your 600 friends couldn’t live without.
Be genuine! Be real on Facebook. If you don’t like something, don’t click the “like” button. Don’t be fake and comment “how cute” on every single picture you see. Don’t “like” every single thing that comes across your news feed. Write thoughtful and personal comments and people will love it 🙂
Consider your motives before each post. Sometimes we write something because we want attention. That is kind of what Facebook is all about. We want those “likes” and you are lying if you say you don’t care. Make sure your status, comments, and pictures aren’t just fishing for a compliment or seeking sympathy. If you are asking for prayers or support that is great, but just complaining or seeking attention is not something people are going to follow for long.
If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. This is advice my mom gave me when I was little and it is something adults need to listen to as well. It’s true in person, but especially true on Facebook where written words can be saved, printed, etc. If you don’t have an encouraging, nice comment, simply don’t write one. If you want to write a hateful status attacking one person or an entire group, just don’t 🙂 If you do have a problem with someone, it’s probably better to talk to them personally and put the fire out before it burns out of control.
Here are some verses to meditate on as you continue your Facebook fun:
Complaining: Philippians 2:14: “Do everything without grumbling or complaining or arguing, so that you may be blameless and pure, children of God without fault in a crooked and depraved generation, in which you shine like stars in the universe…”
Oversharing: 2 Timothy 2:16: Avoid godless chatter, because those who indulge in it will become more and more ungodly.
Proverbs 10:19: When words are many sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise.
Attacks: Proverbs 12:16: A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.
Proverbs 15:1: A gentle answers turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
1 Thess. 5:15: Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always try to be kind to each other and to everyone else.
Seeking Attention (this includes Selfies): Philippians 2:13: Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves.
Cursing: Ephesians 4:29: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
I would love your comments but I only keep the friendly ones. You don’t have to agree with me, but please be nice 🙂